Conflict Resolution Secrets Revealed: Ways For Clarifying Perceptions
People’s perceptions influence how they view society and the world at large. This rings true even for those times when people are involved in a fight or conflict that gets their tempers rising. Still, even with the power of personal perceptions, people sometimes don’t notice their existence. It’s only when they reveal them to the outside world that they can be seen for the thing that they truly are, allowing people to decide whether to retain, alter, or discard them.
Reinventing How You View And Resolve Conflicts
Maybe you’re guilty of having some of the viewpoints below, which could be present in your habits.
- Stick to the now – Set aside all old hurts. Get over the fact that your college pal drank your soda last month.
- Find a common ground – Train your sights on shared objectives. Both of you want the kitchen to look better, whether it means retiling the floor or adding fresh countertops.
- Break it down – Undertake complicated projects with baby steps. Calling a meeting to address time sheet revisions will accomplish more than attempting to fix the whole firm in one hour.
- Churn out options – Stop with the ultimatums and demands. Collaborate with others and come up with alternatives acceptable to all parties. It’s the solutions that get everyone involved and have them feeling like they achieved something valuable that are truly the best.
- Define the big issues – Many blame their frustrations or anger on the wrong causes. Make sure both sides are arguing about the situation under discussion and nothing else because otherwise, there could be a deeper problem that’s gone unaddressed for some time.
- Separate the wants from the needs – As a kid, you likely learned that needs always trump wants. However, as a full-grown adult, being precise is best so you have an idea where there’s room for negotiating.
- Set priorities – Distinguish between “must-do” tasks and those that can be put off for later. An unmade bed is excusable so long as your son pulls in high grades in school.
Changing How You Look At One Another
- Be accountable – Own up to your participation in the disagreement. Doing so leaves you feeling more driven to cooperate and you wind up with a clearer idea for where to start the talks.
- Keep plus-side qualities – Think about the stuff you enjoyed about someone you’re arguing with (his impeccable work ethic even if he breathes with his mouth open).
- Recognize sensitive issues – Everybody has topics they’re really touchy about – religion, politics, etc. Be aware of such issues minus starting a conflict.
- Think of your overall ties – Put the conflict within the context of your entire relationship. A decades-old friendship means more than electing the same student body president.
- Trade places – One way to really understand where someone else is coming from is to empathize. Learn to respect others’ opinions and needs. Understanding people is still possible even if you disagree with certain points in their argument. Don’t tell people to relax and calm down. If you yourself hate it when people say this to you, keep from uttering the same words to others too.
- Listen while keeping an open mind – Shut up and simply listen for now. There’ll be time later for the stuff you wish to say. Raise questions to get more info. See to it that you’re talking about the same thing by repeating the main points.
Life is filled with conflicts everywhere. They can’t be avoided, but why should you, anyway? Conflicts teach people about others and about themselves. In testing relationships, they likewise make them stronger. It’s easier and faster to manage conflicts if people are clear about their perceptions so do learn and master this awesome skill.